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A boutique divorce concierge service like no other providing strategic alternative dispute resolution and divorce coaching, allowing clients to
save time, money and heartache.

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Let’s get divorced together.

Certified Divorce Coach, Private Divorce Mediator and your personal divorce BFF.

You CAN discover the inner strength to overcome crippling emotional pain, defeat helplessness and CREATE a meaningful, fulfilling life regardless of divorce.

You don’t need more legal smithery to make your divorce shorter, cheaper, and less traumatic…you need wise science.

I’ll help you get strategically clear, organized, researched and prepared for the road ahead so you can increase the odds of having an optimal experience with success-driven results.

If you’re thinking about divorce but scared to take that big step, I understand because…

I’ve been there.

Paulette Rigo

 
Divorce Mediator
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The 3 Pillars of Success

Expert Guidance

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Gain insights from experienced divorce mediators and professionals, empowering you to make informed decisions.

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Expert Guidance

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Gain insights from experienced divorce mediators and professionals, empowering you to make informed decisions.

Get clear on the experience & outcome

Transformative Mediation

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Discover the power of mediation, fostering communication and leading to positive outcomes.
You are not Alone!

Master your divorce preparation

Transformative Mediation

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Discover the power of mediation, fostering communication and leading to positive outcomes.
You are not Alone!

Master your divorce preparation

Practical Strategies

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Streamline the process with practical strategies for efficient, cost-effective, and emotionally smoother divorce.

Stand out with your strategy

Practical Strategies

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Streamline the process with practical strategies for efficient, cost-effective, and emotionally smoother divorce.

Stand out with your strategy

Services

Private Mediation

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Better Divorce Academy personalized mediation service guides you through all forms of alternative dispute resolution, setting goals, making informed, amicable decisions and working to create the next chapter of your life that you desire and deserve.

Private Mediation

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Better Divorce Academy personalized mediation service guides you through all forms of alternative dispute resolution, setting goals, making informed, amicable decisions and working to create the next chapter of your life that you desire and deserve.

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1:1 Divorce Coaching

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Better Divorce Coaching personally guides and empowers clients going through HIGH CONFLICT divorce and life transitions until they thrive on the other side.

1:1 Divorce Coaching

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Better Divorce Coaching personally guides and empowers clients going through HIGH CONFLICT divorce and life transitions until they thrive on the other side.

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We got this—together.

Hear out what our clients say about us.

Brittany
Paulette is truly an expert in her field! When I found myself struggling to navigate the complexities of my divorce, she stepped in and helped me tie all the loose ends together. Her guidance not only gave me clarity but also the confidence I needed to take the next steps. Throughout our collaboration, her extensive knowledge of the industry proved indispensable in streamlining the process and fostering a smooth, stress-free experience. Theres no doubt in choosing the Better Divorce Academy!
Brittany N Lauren
Renee
Paulette gave me wisdom through her advice. She was very responsive and empathetic. I spent one month with her as my coach and I am handling divorce much better than I otherwise would be. I am now responding calmly instead of blowing up which will work in my favor in my case and in life. I felt we had some disconnect at times, with me trying to tell my story and her pushing me to move on before I was ready. Overall I felt validated but didn’t feel completely heard at times. I recommend Paulette for your divorce with a difficult personality. She’ll tell you things you don’t want to hear, but you need to hear.
Renee Rowland
Racheal
Paulette's a game-changer in divorce litigation. With her guidance, you'll know what to do and she genuinely has YOUR best interests at heart, unlike others. No regrets hiring her.
Rachel Johnson
Dan
I can't thank Paulette enough for her invaluable support during a time when my marriage was hanging by a thread. Her deep knowledge, unwavering support, and flexibility were a lifeline that prevented me from taking the drastic step of divorce. In just two conversations, she provided clarity on my options and helped me find a path forward. Her warmth and empathy felt like a ray of sunshine in my darkest moments. Paulette is a remarkable professional and a genuine blessing. I wholeheartedly recommend her to anyone facing relationship challenges or contemplating divorce. Her guidance was instrumental in helping me navigate a difficult chapter in my life.
Ribeka Cruz
virginia
Paulette was amazing to work with. Her knowledge and empathy made the divorce and mediation process go so much more smoothly than I anticipated. She also has great contacts, so you can be confident you'll be covered no matter what. I highly recommend working with her!
Virginia Collins
susan
I’m not sure anyone who has been through one would say they had a ‘good’ divorce. It seems to me an oxymoron, kind of like a ‘good’ death. But, as both an attorney and someone who has experienced divorce in multiple ways on a personal and professional level, I can attest to the fact that there definitely ways to have a ‘better’ divorce, and Paulette can absolutely help you find them. She is a powerhouse of knowledge in this arena and is an amazing asset to those struggling through the life-changing upheaval that comes with the process of ending your marriage. Her amazing skill set is unique, creative, and the best way I can think of to come to the other side of divorce as a more whole person. I highly recommend her and her process!
Susan Baudhuin
Julieta
Paulette was there during the initial stages of divorce. She helped me pinpoint what was important to me and guided me through the very anxiety provoking process. So thankful to have her expertise and also her listening ear.
Julieta Valenzona
Jan Leasure..
Paulette was there during the initial stages of divorce. She helped me pinpoint what was important to me and guided me through the very anxiety provoking process. So thankful to have her expertise and also her listening ear.
Jan Leasure
Meagan
Paulette was a great guide through my separation and divorce. She always was there to answer my questions, and helped us through mediation. Divorce may suck, bit she helped make the process less painful. Definitely recommend using her services!
Meagan Luschen
Ashley Parker
Paulette is an absolute Godsend! She made my divorce go so much quicker! Very professional and caring! I couldn’t recommend her enough!
Ashley Parker

— BDA Does Divorce Differently and Better

Here’s our data-driven, success-based 3-step system:

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BDA Does Divorce Differently and Better

Ready To Talk?
Stick to the data.
Then, we dial up the (cocktail party) charm:

Let’s layer in your sparkling personality, authentic voice, and backend story that is hiding out in your “shelf-help” TBR bookcase.

We’ll add them to your proven divorce frameworks like my BLUEPRINT BDA Formula.
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Stack in your goals.
Clearing the clutter by zeroing in on the data.

Identify what your goals are ach-u-ally saying (or learn how to with my marriage timeline hacking method) inside Better Divorce Blueprint, ‘cause dem the facts.

Let’s make DATA-DRIVEN DECISIONS and process the gut-wrenching emotions every step of the way.
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Add leverage.
Finally, we’ll refine your compelling strategy and build the right team for YOUR success.

Divorce coaching rocks, but I’m not afraid to talk about money and your future: get ready to woo some wallet-opening financial future forward action.

You’re gonna need to raid the champagne cabinet…;) the moment you see your vision clearly.
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Considering Divorce

Your're Probably Wondering:

  • Will leaving my toxic spouse result in a high-conflict divorce?
  • Do I need a LAWYER to get a divorce?
  • How can I avoid dropping a ton of cash on legal fees?
  • Can I afford to KEEP THE HOUSE after the divorce papers are signed?
  • What is DIVORCE MEDIATION? How long does divorce mediation take? Is it expensive?
  • Can my marriage be saved? Is amicable divorce possible?
  • How will I and my children ever get through this?
  • I’ve been married for decades and I’m scared to be alone—

Will I ever be happy again?

Roadblocks? Navigated.
Obstacles? Overcome.
Happiness? That’s up next.

BDA is a boutique divorce coaching business and divorce curriculum source—

We welcome you at any stage of your divorce.

This is no jack of all trades sitch:

we play favorites, and our favorites are people in

  • long-term,
  • high-asset,
  • high-conflict (yup the narc is our jam) marriages that are leaning towards divorce.

Even while supporting, coaching and mediating for hundreds (racking in) more than we ever dreamed possible.

Thinking of Divorce but Not Sure Where to Start?​

Better Divorce Blueprint

Dreaming of A better future is YOUR right
Divorce with Dignity
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Let's Do It!

We excel at the intersection of credentials and compassion, leveraging professional expertise and knowledge to find savvy, success-based solutions and a supportive, step-by-step journey through divorce and back.

BDA works from a place of preparation instead of blind trust in the system.

It’s simple: We’ll help you make BETTER and WISER decisions with YOUR Blueprint, so you can lean into creating your new life and legacy.

Throw your hands up and say “Hell, yeah!” or just put on your dancing shoes and pour a glass of Sangiovese—mind pouring me one too, while you’re at it?’

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Dear Diary.

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The Guilt of Facing the End: When a Marriage Runs Its Course

The Guilt of Facing the End: When a Marriage Runs Its Course

The Power of One: Navigating Single Parenthood with Confidence

The Power of One: Navigating Single Parenthood with Confidence

Navigating Divorce: A Journey of Transformation and Empowerment

Navigating Divorce: A Journey of Transformation and Empowerment

How to Find the Best Divorce Support Group: Your Path to Healing and Empowerment

How to Find the Best Divorce Support Group: Your Path to Healing and Empowerment

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You are NOT to blame. You WILL get through this and be happy again.

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Gain the wisdom you need with cutting-edge coaching services designed for those seeking results!

Think of this assessment/consultation like you are taking your marriage to the doctor. This is your chance to get my eyeballs on your situation and tell you exactly what is not functioning, know what all your options are and the best next steps to know if divorce is best for you and your family.

You will learn the 5 methods of divorce and the 4 things the court cares about and be sure all your questions are answered.

30-Minutes Preparation and Planning Assessment

  • Our unbeatable $75 preparation and planning assessment, taking just 30 minutes, will lay the foundation for your success in knowing your best options.

Up to 90 Minutes Coaching Consultation

  • Elevate your progress with our exclusive one-on-one divorce coaching and private mediation consultation, spanning 60 to 90 minutes, at only $299.

Our team of expert coaches specializes in understanding your needs and analyzing your situation.

Let’s explore your goals, overcome challenges, and create a personalized roadmap to successfully divorce.

Invest in yourself and experience unparalleled support and expertise.

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I won the lottery in divorce.

I am the .001%

97% of divorce does not go to trial  and of the 3% that do go to trial only 1% of that 3% goes to the appellate court!

Well, that was ME.

I personally endured an 8.5 year fully litigated case that included a 12 day trial that took place over 9 months and after all that living hell…(please excuse my french)

there was a FOUR year state supreme appellate court process.

It cost a TON of money, years of my life tied up in court and it nearly destroyed me and my family.

the funny thing during this time I could barely help myself but time and time again other’s reached out to ME for help..

I called my attorney Marty (gutta remember I was born in Boston)

and told him what happening.

I asked him if I should go to law school…
he smiled and said you know Paulette you think like a judge act like a lawyer and feel like a therapist you owe it to give back and help people you my dear have experienced what 99% of people never will… that experience gives you the depth and the breath of the entire divorce process

Full Circle

my personal experience gave me the awareness, skills and strength to help countless others facing mediation, divorce, high-conflict litigation and ever-changing family dynamics.

It drove me to do a tremendous amount of education, training, internship, mentoring and certification and create Better Divorce Academy, author the #1 best selling book, workbook, and the 8-module self-paced course: Better Divorce Blueprint and host The Better Divorce Podcast.

With my team of experts, we blend private mediation with Certified Divorce Coaching to help you stay in control, make wise decisions, and maintain your dignity.

I’m here to transform divorce and create an optimal experience for YOU.

The one I didn’t have 😟

but you can.