The Challenge of Divorcing a Narcissist

The Challenge of Divorcing a Narcissist

Divorce…Narcissist. 

These two words seem to go together often…too often. 

The devastating and confusing experience of being in a relationship with a Narcissistic Abuser leaves your head spinning with confusion and frustration. 

The personal experience and insight of others who have had this same encounter and relationship will open your eyes into the “inappropriate behavior” of an abusive marriage and why so many stay in relationships of control and abuse on average 7 years. 

What are the warning signs that are so easy to overlook? 

How does it feel to be in an emotional coma? 

How does the silent treatment play a role in a relationship? 

What is gaslighting? 

What are the stages of Narcissistic abuse? 

  1. Idealize: Everything is a bed of roses often called Love Bombing
  2. Devalue: The abuser now flips the coin and criticizes and finds fault with your everything (often called gaslighting) 
  3. Discard: The abuser see themself as a victim and blames, alienates and disregards (often called contempt)

There are 7 types of overall abuse include: 

  1. Sexual 
  2. Physical 
  3. Financial 
  4. Emotional 
  5. Mental 
  6. Psychological 
  7. Spiritual 

Narcissist is a word thrown around a lot. But true narcissists are a serious threat to any marriage behind closed doors. 

If you’ve been abused by a narcissist and no longer recognize the woman in the mirror staring back at you, it’s time you know what the warning signs are, like gaslighting and which behaviors to watch for, like the silent treatment. 

Learn the difference between real love and abuse disguised as love. Learn to trust your instincts again and stop doubting yourself. Get back in touch with the girl you used to be. You can recover from being married to a narcissist.

I help women who are suffering in marriages with narcissists learn to communicate effectively and no longer be a victim and take back their power.

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I won the lottery in divorce.

I am the .001%

97% of divorce does not go to trial  and of the 3% that do go to trial only 1% of that 3% goes to the appellate court!

Well, that was ME.

I personally endured an 8.5 year fully litigated case that included a 12 day trial that took place over 9 months and after all that living hell…(please excuse my french)

there was a FOUR year state supreme appellate court process.

It cost a TON of money, years of my life tied up in court and it nearly destroyed me and my family.

the funny thing during this time I could barely help myself but time and time again other’s reached out to ME for help..

I called my attorney Marty (gutta remember I was born in Boston)

and told him what happening.

I asked him if I should go to law school…
he smiled and said you know Paulette you think like a judge act like a lawyer and feel like a therapist you owe it to give back and help people you my dear have experienced what 99% of people never will… that experience gives you the depth and the breath of the entire divorce process

Full Circle

my personal experience gave me the awareness, skills and strength to help countless others facing mediation, divorce, antagonistic litigation and ever-changing family dynamics.

It drove me to do a tremendous amount of education, training, internship, mentoring and certification and create Better Divorce Academy, author the #1 best selling book, workbook, and the 8-module self-paced course: Better Divorce Blueprint and host The Better Divorce Podcast.

With my team of experts, we blend private mediation with Certified Divorce Coaching to help you stay in control, make wise decisions, and maintain your dignity.

I’m here to transform divorce and create an optimal experience for YOU.

The one I didn’t have 😟

but you can.